Pretty hurts; Perfection is a disease of a nation.

It has become common place to set the “media” definition of perfection as our personal marker for perfection. We as a society need to stop letting others (media) decide for us what perfect is. Although, I would suggest that being perfect is an illusion and the key is to accept who were are will all of our strengths and weaknesses (imperfections). We should each strive to wake up each morning with the attitude, I will Cheerfully Accept who I am today and my goal today will be to make the person I am tomorrow even better. We always need to move forward.

Charlotte Leach

You may all recognise the title of my blog today, it’s from Beyonce’s song ‘Pretty Hurts’. I think she’s right, the concept of being ‘pretty’ really does hurt, it’s something that affects so many people. I thought it was quite interesting that there is actually a recognised phobia of this, or at least of imperfection more generally; Atelophobia. But why?

If I asked 10 people to define perfection, I bet all 10 wouldn’t be able to. I’m not going to say that perfection doesn’t exist, because I believe it does. It just varies from one person to the next, that’s all. To me, my boyfriend IS perfect, but that doesn’t mean to say I expect you to think so too. We all have different concepts of perfection because ultimately, we are all different.

But the notion of difference is what causes a lot of these problems, and there are so…

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Finally Learning that I Don’t Need Permission!

Brilliantly written article…it truly spoke to me…The fears you identified in the middle of the post….I didn’t even realize I was carrying those fears until I saw them in your post. Thank you for posting this!

From People Pleasing to People Loving Part 2…

I have not successfully transition from people pleasing to people/self-loving, but I am certainly transitioning. Cheerful Acceptance is the process I am using and so far it seems to be working. Keep moving on your path and trust that the end justifies the means.!

365 Days of Freedom

So, the question at hand is, how much should we care?

If someone is hurting or something went wrong, how do we handle it? Should we be throwing ourselves on the sword every time just to salvage the situation or the relationship? How far do we go?

Let’s say for a minute that I was able to put my self-worth squarely back into myself. I began putting my own needs and emotions first before I helped others. If someone gets upset with you for something you did, how do you then react? People pleasers would be all over that shit, feeling like a horrible person for “fucking up” so majorly. What kind of person could do that to your mother/brother/sister/friend/gardener? You should be shot and strapped to the back of a truck. Yes, emotional self-flogging is very fun.

I imagine that a grounded more peaceful person steps away from the…

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An Open Letter to My Younger Self

These thoughts are empowering and a wonderful start to self-acceptance. How can we extend this to a letter to our future self? What lessons can be learned and projected forward so that they can have meaning in our lives as we move forward?